“Why Purpose is important for men”
A Man is defined by his Purpose.
How Vision- Meaning -and Mission Shape a Man’s Identity and Life-
In a world that constantly tells men to “do more” and “be more”, the deeper question often gets ignored:
Why do males suffer with discovering what their purpose in life is?
Purpose isn’t just a luxury for the spiritually inclined or the extremely gifted, it’s a core need for every man.
All of humanity came into being with a gift of Purpose, and they must discover that gift and refine it in order to be fulfilled. Without making this discovery, a man may still succeed externally and on the surface, but all the while, he is crumbling inside. Not only does it impact his focus and drive, but it also affects the woman in his life.
In this article, we’ll explore why Purpose matters so much to men-
Not just for personal and business success, but for emotional health, relationships, and legacy building.
Men, discovering your Purpose and refining your gift is your source of significance. And every man reading this article wants to be considered significant in the eyes of his wife, mate, or his children. And for men, this level of significance is what we know as “Respect.”
And for men, being respected means to be perceived as being important, or significant. So, how do I as man become someone that can be respected. The way to do this is simple. “Find Your Gift.”
A man having Purpose for his life and knowing what his gift is to give to the world is what grounds his identity. And without it, so often men will default to roles like, (their job, being a financial provider, or materialism) in order to establish some level of significance.
Purpose gives a man a deeper sense of self, beyond performance, titles, status, degrees, or labels. It fuels his reason to be excited about each day and gives momentum to his “Why.” And once a man’s why is big enough, the how doesn’t seem to matter as much, nor is he easily distracted or manipulated.
He becomes more resilient in the midst of failure, rejection, or pain of loss. Discovering your Purpose and refining your gift are so vitally important because once a man has truly tapped into these sources, he can make it anywhere, under any conditions.
You can’t fire a gift from a job. Pay attention to this men, because when a man loses his job he is prone to lose his identity and sense of self worth. This is due to the fact that most men have confused their job with their gift of purpose.
They think their job and their work are the same. When you awake each morning you don’t go to work, you go to a job. And there’s already a 50/50 chance that the job may or may not be there. This is why it’s so very crucial to discover your purpose and refine your gift.
Because in the event, the job decides to down size, or cut labor costs, resulting in you being let go after possibly investing years of your life into the company, you will be stuck to figure it all out in a moment.
Everything you do from 9 to 5 on your job is for survival, all that you do after that is for success. So in essence, you should always work harder on yourself than you do on your job. And this is exactly what Purpose does for a man. It wires him for his mission, and masculine energy is a directional thing, it needs a mission, a target, a goal to be attached to.
True Purpose gives a man something bigger than himself to live for. And here’s the beauty of it all. The creator placed your purpose where you can not miss it. It’s not somewhere out there, it’s inside of you. And we’ve been conditioned to go looking everywhere except where it is. This is the dilemma of defining manhood. Getting past what we’ve been taught to believe and learning to embrace what we know.
What we believe about our true purpose as men is everything that has misled us thus far. Belief is always prone to mislead. Nevertheless, what we know is innate. It’s that thing in your gut that comes from a place of truth and real direction. What you know lines up with your purpose and your gift, it builds your mental and emotional strength and inner fortitude and allows you to walk with boldness and confidence.
Proverbs 18:16 “A man’s gift taketh room for him, and bringeth him before great men.”
This verse doesn’t say, your job, your degree, or your status shall make room for you, but it’s your powerful gift that shall make room for you. And you must discover it and refine it in order for you to be fulfilled in life. If a man is not happy with his job he will not be happy with his home. And how do you become immune to losing a job or being fired?
You do this by discovering that thing they cannot fire which is your gift. Men, if you’re not married yet and your mate knows you can never be fired, she will always be at ease. It’s your purpose that gives clarity to all relationships and creates healthier dynamics. Without purpose, men lack direction, become vulnerable to escapism, addiction, or passivity.
Knowing your purpose and refining your gift will keep you grounded in growth and intentional living. It makes legacy and contribution to humanity matter. Once a man becomes connected to that with is greater than himself, he shifts his focus from success to significance and value, from accumulation of things to impact and influence.
Know this, Purpose is not a “One -Time” discovery- it’s a lifelong relationship with your true self. I want to encourage each and every man reading this article to begin to asks yourself the deeper questions:
“What drives Me?”
“What do I want to be known and remembered for?”
“What am I building?”